Dörte Berendes-Schaefer

Rechtsanwältin

About me

Qualifications & Motivation

After studying law in Munich, Leeds (England), and Freiburg, as well as economics in Christchurch (New Zealand), and completing my legal traineeship, I worked as a self-employed lawyer, consultant, and project lawyer/ manager in various companies, specialising in civil law, contract law, business law, and mergers & acquisitions.

The sudden and unexpected passing of my father - and the legal and organisational challenges that followed - was a life-changing experience for me. It led me to dedicate my career to supporting others through such difficult times. As a lawyer, I now help individuals both proactively in estate planning and during the complex legal processes that arise in the event of an inheritance.

This personal experience inspired me to specialise in inheritance law and wealth succession. I provide expert legal guidance on all aspects of estate planning, inheritance, and succession matters, ensuring that my clients receive tailored advice and support on these sensitive topics.

My Background

  • Lawyer since 2005
  • Bachelor of Commerce with Honours (New Zealand)
  • Master of Laws (LL.M.)
  • Specialist legal training in inheritance law
  • Specialist legal training in commercial & corporate law
  • Certified executor training
  • Certified Mediator

Memberships

  • Düsseldorf Bar Association
  • German Bar Association (DAV)
  • Working Group on Inheritance Law (DAV)

My Story

My father passed away suddenly and unexpectedly. Nothing had been arranged, and no one had insight into his affairs. On top of that, my siblings and I - three children in total - did not live nearby. In addition to the immense shock and the demanding organisation of the funeral, we were faced with the task of managing his antique and restoration business, including a furniture and wood storage area, as well as his apartment.
At first, we felt completely overwhelmed and had to painstakingly navigate each step. We started by sorting through all his documents - around 100 folders - to determine his financial situation and identify relevant paperwork. Then, the entire estate had to be settled: from notifying various institutions, terminating contracts, and handling asset transfers to selling property and belongings. Many matters could only be resolved with a certificate of inheritance, which took five months to obtain because we had no powers of attorney. Administering the estate under these circumstances was time-consuming, complex, costly, and deeply painful.

The lack of prior arrangements also created significant emotional distress, particularly for his well-off partner, who - according to the law - had no legal claims or say in the process. Fortunately, we all were able to handle everything harmoniously and amicably among ourselves.

What I Wish Had Been Different

Looking back, I wish I had been able to have a personal conversation with my father to understand what truly mattered to him in the event of his passing. This includes both the practical aspects - such as how and where he wanted to be buried or who should inherit what - but also the more personal aspects, like what was most important to him in life and what kind of legacy he wanted to leave behind.

Regarding the administration of his estate, I wish that at least one of us children had had insight into his affairs and had been granted a general power of attorney. This would have made the entire process significantly easier and less stressful.

My father and his partner lived in separate homes and were financially independent of each other. His passing threw her into a deep emotional crisis, particularly as it raised profound uncertainties about her role in his life. Even a symbolic mention in his will could have provided her with a sense of acknowledgment and comfort during her grieving process.